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Crockett is an author, relational neuroscience expert on stress and sex, licensed psychotherapist and professional speaker. She has degrees from Middlebury College, the University of Georgia, and training in sex therapy and sex education from the University of Michigan. She is one of five AASECT-certified sexuality educators in Florida.

 

HER EXPERTISE:

Heidi offers psychotherapy, sexual health consults, and dating coaching at the world-famous Hippocrates Health Institute.  She is a relational neuroscience expert with presentations at Hippocrates such as:

  • Understanding the YES Brain

  • Exploring Our Inner Defense Mechanisms: The Fantasy Bond and Inner Critical Voice

  • The Importance of Sexual Health

  • The YES Brain in the Bedroom

 

She also teaches on trauma resolution with guided body meditations using the research of Dr. Peter Levine and his Somatic Experiencing (SE) technique. SE includes the idea that trauma is stored in implicit memory, inside the body as a trauma pod with fear and immobility or fear and rage glued together with no differentiation whatsoever. Through pendulation, she teaches how one can differentiate fear from immobility or fear from rage and has successfully helped clients resolve even old traumas.

 

 

This technique is done through a process called titration. Imagine sodium hydroxide (NAOH) and hydrocloric acid (HCL) (both caustic chemicals on their own) combined suddenly? This would create a massive explosion. In a metaphor for this paragraph, let’s say these two chemicals together represent the “fear and immobility” trauma pod and the “fear and rage” trauma pod. By integrating and slowly dripping, drop by drop, the HCL into the NAOH, the concentration becomes completely harmless salt water.  Similarly, through pendulation, one releases the immobility (by fleeing) or the rage, and the fear dissipates leaving the trauma like harmless salt water with no excitability or strong charge in the body. (In chemistry, the HCL + NAOH solution becomes salt water NACL + H20.) By embodying your past, present, and future, by using your autonoetic consciousness to practice narrative integration, memory integration, and state integration, you can collect back all of yourself and come together into one coherent whole with both high differentiation and high linkage, (the definition of integration,) where the whole IS greater than the sum of the parts.

 

Crockett teaches the core interpersonal neurobiology concept that we all exist on a spectrum from low integration to high integration and aim for the SWEET SPOT.  If we have too much differentiation, we’re stuck in rigid apathy, or if we have too much linkage, we’re stuck in codependency, over-valuing others’ feelings. By linking too much, too soon, we ignore our own feelings and create a pattern of self-neglect in interpersonal relating. In the below chart, too much differentiation is represented by far left and too much linkage is the far right:

SWEET SPOT linkage differentiation


Credit to Dr. Dan Siegel’s “The Yes Brain”

She also teaches WHY some of us seem to be able to achieve higher states of integration whereas others seem more stuck. She explains using Firestone’s theory of the Fantasy Bond and how we exist on a spectrum from inwardness (meaning highly defended) to outwardness. **FREE TIP inwardness to outwardness chart and Fantasy Bond HANDOUT.

 

CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT HER BOOKS:

The Neuroscience of Dating

Caregiver Stress: Neurobiology to the Rescue

 

Questions about services? Reach out to her at HeidiCrockett at gmail dot com.

 

Remember the sun shines on everyone…and everyone has a right to joy and pleasure.

 

Click here to read:

4 Tips How to Spot Lower Levels of Brain Integration

Click here for a video of Crockett explaining two QUICK stress reduction tips to calm your limbic brain